Summary of when to use different Conflict Styles

The compromise approach is the best to use when

You need to achieve a temporary settlement to a larger issue.
You’re under time pressure.
Both sides have essential needs to consider.
You’re dealing with someone of equal power or authority.
A solution is moderately important.

Some people find it hard to accept that to give in is actually the best approach to take in certain situations.

When you know the person is right or has a better idea than you.
When you know you are right but the issue is of such minor importance that it’s just not worth getting into an argument.
When you’re working with someone who’s learning (perhaps a young person) and you don’t want to demotivate them. They come up with an idea that you know won’t work because you perhaps tried it when you were learning. As long as the consequences of them trying their idea and failing aren’t likely to be serious, just give in and let the person have a go.

When is contesting the best approach to use?

When you’re sure you’re right and the potential repercussions of the other person winning the argument are serious.
When you’re sure you’re right and any delay in presenting your case could have a negative impact.

When would it make sense to avoid the conflict?

When tempers are getting frayed and people aren’t thinking straight.
When the issue is of such minor importance that it’s just a waste of time to argue about it.
When you’re not prepared properly with your argument.
When you’re not in the right frame of mind.
When you’re in a place that isn’t appropriate (perhaps a public place where others can overhear you).